By Laurel J. Sweet and Benjamin Bell
Tuesday, September 29, 2009 - Updated 6h ago
Dorm rooms doubling as steamy love huts have Tufts University throwing cold water on sex on campus - at least when horny students let it all hang out in front of red-faced roommates.
“You may not engage in sexual activity while your roommate is present in the room,” tuts Tufts’ 2009-10 guest policy, newly revised in response to student gripes about rambunctious roomies and their raunchy romps.
Tufts spokeswoman Kim Thurler told the Herald the 8,500-student school has fielded roughly a dozen complaints from chagrined scholars “who expressed concerns that they were experiencing uncomfortable situations" with their roommates’ sex-tracurricular activities.
“We really didn’t have anything concrete in place for (them) to set clear boundaries,” she said.
But miffed collegians at the school’s Medford campus told the Herald they are quite capable of managing their own affairs, thank you very much.
“If you are uncomfortable with your roommate’s activity, you should talk to them,” sophomore Christina Simonetti, 19, said.
Sophomore Carolyn Pace, 19, called the policy “useless legislation” for something “obvious.”
But apparently, it wasn’t obvious enough to some.
While the rules lay out no consequences for making whoopie within eyeshot of others, Thurler hopes the policy will “empower” students to “bring that issue up” with their randy roomie.
Elsewhere in the Hub of higher learning, other premier institutions take a variety of approaches to the touchy issue with their student bodies.
“As a Catholic university, we do not allow cohabitation in our residence halls,” Boston College spokesman Jack Dunn said.
There’s no such commandment at Boston University, but spokesman Colin Riley said, “Consideration for others is an important aspect and privilege of having a guest.”
Harvard University’s student handbook frowns on “serious or persistent unwanted sexual conduct.” Emerson College’s visitor policy flirts with the issue, saying only “the right of a student to live in reasonable privacy takes precedence over the privilege of (a roommate) to entertain a guest.”
Amber Madison of New York, a 2005 Tufts grad who wrote a sex column called “Between the Sheets” for the student newspaper, said her classmates used to make do hanging objects on doorknobs or marking a note board to signal they weren’t alone.
“Now, you hope people would send a text message, checking in advance, ‘Are you willing to sleep somewhere else tonight?’ ” said Madison, author of “Hooking Up: A Guide to Sex and Sexuality” and the soon-to-be-released “Talking With Your Kids About Sex.”
Madison suggested a “good compromise” is for lovers to take note of their roommates’ schedules and make time for lovin’ in the morning or afternoon.
“Hopefully,” she added, “on their own bed.”
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