One other point, as if my response wasent long winded enough lol. The more gray hair I get it seems the wiser I get in my opinions on things. I remember as a young man, even a slightly feminine man would illicit a effin faggot comment in my head. And an act of affection between 2 men would set off a faggot homo tirade in my head, not aloud, but in my thoughts. Then at around 20 years old I got a job and was partnered with a flamboyant 40ish year old man named Carl. You could imagine my internal dialogue upon seeing my work partner, I couldnt even focus on my tasks because i was so caught up in my issues with this obviously gay dude i was side saddled with, I was disgusted and so pre occupied on his feminine actions I was useless. Then over the coarse of 3 years he became not just a friend but almost like a father. It opened my eyes to how much of a douche bag i was. I feel it is in part to how I was raised, my parents views and the machismo involved in young mens behavior. Carl died of AIDS in 2004 and I still think of him often. I remember people yelling faggot to him in the parking lot(he used a purse and didnt give a fuck who didnt like it). I remember him telling me they are jealous of how good he looks with that fendi bag, he told me you get used to it. Carl helped me unwillingly drop these pre conceived notions on judging people on what they are and focus on who they are. Ever since Carl I have a real low tolerance for blind blanketed hate on people, and you could imagine how popular i am when a gay clip is posted and i take pokes at some of the outrageous anti gay posts...lol...i get blasted...but i could care less. Im raising my children differently then i was, the cycle in my family ends with me. My children will understand why there are gay parades, and why people dont all look like them. Even at the tender ages of 9 and 7 they know to judge a person on the merit of their character and not who they love nor what color they are. They know black history, and the story of MLK and what he did, and they are disgusted on how we treated blacks, and they feel anyone should be able to love whoever they want. It is my proudest achievement as a parent and my choice to raise my children this way.