Muslim women living under sharia law in America cannot get divorced

Sharia law is alive and well in America. Read it and weep at the utter despair, the absurdity and inability to consider life outside of Islam.
DETROIT — Muslim women whose husbands refuse to divorce them religiously have one alternative: They must find an imam to grant them a religious divorce. The process, which can take years and involve traveling to meet with imams across the country, is what author Julie McFarlane calls “imam shopping.”

And the country they are referring to is not in the Middle East, it is the United States of America. She should be advising them to seek a lawyer and/or seek help leaving Islam.

McFarlane is a professor of law at the University of Ontario and says she receives emails from across the country from Muslim women who experience difficulty getting an Islamic divorce. “I tell them to go imam shopping,” McFarlane said.

When a woman wants a religious divorce, she can’t get one unless her husband agrees to divorce her.

There’s a double standard, because when a man wants a religious divorce he doesn’t need the consent of his wife or an imam. If a husband won’t divorce his wife, imams have the authority to grant the woman a divorce anyway, but only if there’s good reason.

Under Islamic Law imams can grant divorces for reasons such as alcohol addiction, gambling, drug abuse, impotence, homosexuality, among other factors.

Imam Ali S. Ali, Director of Muslim Family Services in Detroit, says there are two main reasons men won’t divorce their wives. The first is they want to punish the woman and get revenge. The second is the man’s pride. “She rejected him, and he feels ashamed. He feels rejected,” Ali said.

It is important to note that women wouldn’t experience any difficulty getting an Islamic divorce, if they exercised the powers granted to them under Islamic law. One such power is the woman’s right to uncontested divorce, known as the “Isma.”

Before a Muslim woman is married, she can place a provision in her Islamic marriage contract, asking for the “Isma.”

Under it, she can initiate getting a divorce at any time, without the consent of her husband or the approval of an imam.

“It’s not the religion. It’s the culture,” said Melinda, another woman who didn’t want to use her real name. “Muslim men are not allowed to lay a hand on a woman. They are supposed to treat her like a queen. It’s a very good religion, and the Holy Quran gives women a lot of rights. It says to treat women good and with respect, but they don’t do that.”

Melinda, who’s from Dearborn Heights, used the “Isma” when she remarried her ex-husband, because the first time they divorced, it was difficult to get an Islamic divorce, and she didn’t want to go through the process again. Women have to specifically ask for the “Isma.”

“It’s not easy. The imams don’t give you a divorce right away, and you have to go and explain and, even if you have many reasons, they still want to give the guy, the man, the upper hand. If you go and say that my husband is hitting me. He mistreated me; they would say you have to be patient. They would say that’s not an excuse,” she said.

According to Melinda, her husband was controlling, in addition to being physically and verbally abusive. She wasn’t allowed to wear pants, or eyeliner.

And she remarried him only to get beat again.

He promised he would change, but never did, and when she went to divorce him the second time around, she had no problems and didn’t need approval from an imam or her husband, because she had the “Isma”.

“I told him many times I wanted a divorce, but the way some men treat women who are from other countries; they think that you are weak, that you can’t make decisions or go and find a life by yourself,” Melinda, who’s from Lebanon said.

Melinda says if it weren’t for the “Isma” the second time around, she would still be married to him, because he would have never divorced her. “I wrote in the contract of the marriage that I can divorce him anytime I want,” she said. But not all women are able to get the “Isma.” It needs the approval of the husband, who must sign the contract accordingly.

Mona Fadallah, a divorce attorney, who practices family law in Canton, Michigan, says “Isma” is typically frowned upon and not accepted among very conservative families.

Family is code for sharia law.

“This will not work in the situation where the families are more in control of the marriage. The more traditional families will not go for it,” Fadallah said. “I feel like if you exercised it, there would be no Islamic divorce issues.”

Melinda says in the culture “Isma” is viewed as shameful, and puts the man down.

In some cases women have come to Imam Ali asking for a divorce, because they married their husbands abroad and they couldn’t come here, or their husbands have been deported. There are other instances where the husband is in jail and the wife wants a divorce, or when he divorces her in civil court, but refuses to divorce her religiously.

In other words, Islamic sharia law trumps U.S. state and federal laws. But banning sharia is just a solution looking for a problem.

Al-Huseiny says the United States is too liberal and threatens the family values that are in place in other Arab countries. “In the Middle East, the style of the family value is different than it is here,” he said.

Four wives, husbands in jail, wife beating, Muslim babes seeking divorce left and right, but America is too liberal.

Rita’s advice to women is to always make sure to get married civilly, in addition to Islamically, so that if they do decide to get divorced, they can pressure their husbands to grant them a religious divorce–by not consenting to divorce him civilly.

So Rita is advising her clients to blackmail their husbands? That should go over real well with the Muslim husband who is already abusing his wife and in a “culture” where “honor killing” is prevalent.

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