Can you spot the 10 signs of Leakleak childishness.

Some people are developmentally delayed in the management of their emotions. Very often, an underlying issue is that for one reason or another, the LL'er never quite grew up. So many people reach chronological adulthood without having mastered the core elements of adult emotional functioning.
What is emotional age?
Physical age can be counted by number of birthdays. It also tends to correlate with height, strength, and cognitive functioning. Psychological or emotional age by contrast becomes evident in emotional reactions and habits. For instance, adults can stay calm whereas most LL'er's tend to be quick to anger. Adults exercise careful judgment before typing whereas childish LLer's may impulsively blurt out , misogynistic or malicious words.

10 Signs Therapists Note When They Assess Emotional Childishness or Maturity:

1. Emotional escalations
Childish LLer's often get mad, bad-tempered, petty, and impatient. Grown-ups seldom do.

2. Blaming
When things go wrong, childish LL'er's look to blame someone. Grown-ups look to fix the problem.

3. Lies
When there's a situation that's uncomfortable, childish LL'er's might lie to stay out of trouble. Grown-ups deal with reality, reliably speaking the truth.

4. Name-calling
Childish 's call each other names. Adults seek to understand issues. Adults not make ad hominen attacks, that is, attacks on people's personal traits. Instead, they attack the problem. They not disrespect others with childish labels.

5. Impulsivity (or as therapists say, "poor impulse control")
Childish Ll'er's strike out impulsively when they feel hurt or mad. They type recklessly without pausing to think about the potential consequences. Instead of listening to others' viewpoints, they impulsively ignore them.

Adults pause, resisting the impulse to shoot out malicious words. They calm themselves. They then think through the problem, seeking more information and analysing options.

6. Need to be the centre of attention
Childish LL'er's always feel the need to be the most well known on LL. They constantly jump on the social bandwagon, posting popular controversy, and always use the most recent meme to describe people they disagree with.

7. Intimidation
They will often try to ridicule others in the hope that other childish LLer's will also treat them the same way.

8. Budding narcissism
If children—or adults— can get whatever they want because they are bigger, stronger, richer etc, they become at risk for learning that the rules don't apply to them. Whatever they want, they take. "It's all about me." Trump, other politicians and celebrities are a classic example of this.
This narcissistic belief may look initially like strength. In fact, it reflects a serious weakness in being unable to see beyond the self.
Psychologically strong people listen to others, listening to understand others' feelings, concerns and preferences. Narcissists who hear only themselves are emotionally brittle. It's my way or the highway. "It's all about me; no one else counts; and if I don't get my way I'll bully you with anger or feel overwhelmed and pout."

9. Immature defences
Adults use defence mechanisms like listening to others' concerns as well as to their own. They then engage in collaborative problem-solving. These responses to difficulties signal psychological maturity.
Childish 's tend to regard the best defence as a strong offence. While that defensive strategy may work in football, attacking anyone who expresses a viewpoint different from what they want is, in life, a primitive defence mechanism.
Another primitive defence is denial: "I didn't say that!" "I never typed that!" when in fact they did say and type that. Sound child-like to you?

10. No observing ego, that is, ability to see, acknowledge, and learn from their mistakes
When emotionally mature adults 'lose their cool' and express anger inappropriately, they soon after, with their "observing ego," realize that their outburst was inappropriate. That is, they can see with hindsight that their behaviour was out of line with their value system. They can see if their outburst has been, as therapists say, ego dystonic (against their value system).
Childish LL'er's who have not yet internalized mature guidelines of respectful behaviour toward others, or who have not developed ability to observe their behaviours to judge what's in line and what's out of line, see their anger as normal. They regard their emotional outbursts as "ego syntonic," justifying them by blaming the other person.
I only did it because you ..."


By: shiningone (2673.90)

Tags: emotional, imature, childish

Location: USA