OTTAWA -- The son of a woman who was raped, strangled and left to rot in the woods has been blacklisted from the killer's parole hearing.
Jeremy Mead, who was six years old when he watched his mom brutally assaulted at gunpoint, is barred from the May 27 hearing in Toronto because he wrote a victim's impact statement deemed "disturbing" by officials at Correctional Service of Canada.
Now 28, the Windsor man says he was only venting his anger in writing for the first time and has no intention of acting out violently.
"If you've been through what I've been through, you're probably going to say some stuff you shouldn't say," he told Sun Media.
Mead wrote the first impact statement this past December, after learning Richard Raymond Babinski was permitted day passes to attend cultural events. It was the first time Mead had put pen to paper to express how his mom's murder traumatized him for life.
Mead wrote that he wished Babinski was dead, and that he would be the one to do it. Realizing the threats were inappropriate, he rewrote the statement and offered assurances he would not disrupt parole proceedings.
But CSC refuses to reverse its decision -- a position Mead calls a "slap in the face" to him and his mother's memory.
"They're going to give him a second chance, but they're not going to give me a second chance," he said.
"His rights are overpowering my rights."
A letter from Pittsburgh Institution Warden Lynne VanDalen said she has a responsibility to ensure security of staff, visitors and inmates.
"Until such time as Mr. Mead seeks assistance for dealing with his emotions and grief, my decision will not be revisited," she wrote.
"It is extremely unfortunate that Mr. Mead has suffered such a devastating loss, and I hope that he will be able to find a method of coming to terms with this."
Eva Marie Mead was a 27-year-old widow working at a Toronto bank when she disappeared on Oct. 19, 1988 -- abducted by the stalker who had become obsessed with her.
Already armed with a substantial criminal record, Babinski was out on bail for sexually assaulting Mead and had broken into her home just days before she went missing.
It was seven months before her skeletal remains were discovered behind the factory where Babinski worked. He had raped and strangled her with such force her larynx was broken.
Eva Gulyas acknowledges her grandson Jeremy should not have used such strong language in the impact statement, but said it's a reflection of how much pain Babinski has inflicted.
"And he has suffered the most. He was so little," she said from her Toronto home.
Heidi Illingworth, executive director of the Canadian Resource Centre for Victims of Crime, said it's a "natural reaction" for victims of violent crime to vent anger and that such threats aren't usually taken seriously.
She called it "unfortunate and unfair" that Mead is not allowed to attend the hearing.
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